It’s Your Choice

There are millions of choices we make as we go about living. Some are smart, some are dumb, and some are just rolling the dice and taking a chance.

The way I make decisions would cause crippling anxiety in most, but I have a high tolerance for risk, and am confident in my ability to weather a poor choice. Do I judge others for the decisions they make or don't make in life? Absolutely. Should I? No, because it's not nice to judge people, but more importantly because everyone is on their own journey with their own lessons.

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I am, however, very open when it comes to how people choose to die. I aspire to be as open to how they live.

Unless you get to have a sudden death, you're more likely to deal with doctors and procedures and medication and treatments. These are all choices not mandates. I have witnessed deaths of people who chose no intervention, those who chose experimental options, those who want second and third options after the one prior has failed, and those who have chosen to fight with nutrition and a shaman. With each one, they always faced judgment and well-meaning opinions of friends and family. Know that this is the least helpful thing you can do for someone who is making these decisions.

I find these choices fascinating and find it rather easy to get behind a person, no matter what their choice is. That's a gift I was born with—and one I wish others would work to get better at.

Everyone will die. Doctors and the medical profession teach and operate with the idea that saving a life is success and dying is failure. They are free to do that, but it doesn't make it automatically true for every person they treat. We all have the choice to treat or not treat.

Right now as a healthy person, I don't wish to pursue treatment for cancer should I get it but I also know I could change my mind if I were actually facing it. That's realistic. If I lose consciousness and slip into a coma, I don't want to be kept alive. I don't want to live without independence. What is it for you? What's that line? Think about it. Share it with your important people.

It's not a choice forever, it's just a choice for today. You can make a new choice tomorrow. That's something I remind myself, when I'm facing complex decisions. For me, it removes a lot of pressure.